“Sometimes “No” is the kindest word.” ― Vironika Tugaleva
One thing I’ve told myself this year, after years of overcommitting to things that I was not sold on, is that I would confidently say “No” in 2018 and from thereon after. There is nothing wrong with telling someone you’re not able to assist them with their project. It actually may be more beneficial for them if you say no than giving a subpar performance to something that they really care about.
In an era when anything short of support is seen as “hate,” I challenge you to love yourself more than you want to please others. Your time is the most valuable thing you have on this earth. Invest it in things you believe in and don’t give it to things you don’t. Since the beginning of 2018 alone (mind you, we are only 37 days in), I have turned down a committee appointment, a board appointment, and, while I cannot directly turn down everything at work, I am getting better at redirecting people to the proper person to lead an effort. Callous as it may sound, everything is not your problem. If it’s not but you can help, great. Please, help. But if it’s not your problem and you cannot help, don’t feel obligated to stretch yourself thin just to do so, ultimately causing problems within your own life.
Long story short, I don’t have time for the nonsense. It’s not that I don’t want to be helpful; I just don’t want to be wasteful more than I don’t want to be helpful.
Make guarding your time and energy a priority.