“Don’t let these fools guilt trip you into anything.” — Bianca Payton
I was having a discussion with one of my frat brothers yesterday who is looking to change jobs. Issue is he doesn’t want to leave his current job hanging. I asked him what I ask everyone I know who is unhappy where they work but still wants to remain loyal: “Will the organization go on tomorrow if you die today? If the answer is ‘No,’ leave. If the answer is ‘Yes,’ leave.”
Don’t give your happiness up for anything or anyone who no longer adds value or purpose to your life. Sure, you won’t always be happy in any relationship, be it professional, platonic, romantic, or otherwise. But if the relationship resides in a state of seemingly eternal joylessness, you should consider terminating it. No one wants to get up for work every single day but no one should hate getting up for work every single day. And, unless you get fired, no one will end that “Wake up and hate it” cycle for you. Make the tough decision and have the uncomfortable conversation so you can live a more comfortable, fulfilling, purpose driven life.
Caveat to my “Seek Happiness” point of view: This may change when children are added into the equation. The moment you know you will be a parent, you have to consider the child’s well-being first because you brought him/her into this world and must provide necessities. But make sure you’re differentiating necessities from luxuries. If you’re working a job you hate and missing out on quality time with your family so you can purchase new iPhones for the family each year, you’re really selling the value of your time and happiness short.
Make loyalty to yourself a priority.