It’s Not All Smiles

Disclaimer: I’m a very happy and positive person. This post is just meant to address the aspects of my life that you don’t see online.

Social media will have you thinking everyone’s day is amazing. The traveling. The smiles. The love. The family. The articulate quips that seem to roll off the tongue and onto the stock photo. The gym progress pics. The overall balance.

Well, my life isn’t perfect. Right now, I am looking for a job that is fulfilling but lucrative. I also don’t want to let go of my creative passions because they drive me on the days I don’t feel like going to anyone’s office. My youngest first cousin just went to jail. My wife and I don’t see eye to eye on everything. One of my best friends may be moving before the year’s end. Oh, and I’m a black man in a nation where there is a target on my back 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Those are the challenges that you don’t see on Instagram and Facebook.

Mind you, I have a ton to be grateful for. I’m not complaining at all. I’m just saying that, in the age of instant gratification and narcissism, what you see isn’t always what you get. Social media allows us all, my- and yourself included, to show people exactly what we want them to see. Be mindful of that next time you think that you’re not where you need to be in life yet. Don’t get depressed just because everyone else seems to be living in a perpetual state of living their best lives. I’m willing to bet you wouldn’t have had a clue of anything in that second paragraph (minus the whole getting shot as a black man part) before today.

Thanks in advance for not taking advantage of my purposeful (but calculated) vulnerability. I hope it helps someone somewhere.


Make keeping everything in perspective a priority.


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